I say what I mean

I have a number of flaws. If I began cataloging them we could be here all day and perhaps part of next week. However, there are two things that I take pride in holding to 1) I tell the truth as I know it and 2) I say what I mean.

Telling the truth as you know it is often difficult because people do not want to hear the truth. They want to be lied to, soothed, and otherwise BSed. I don’t do that. I will tell you the truth in the nicest way possible, but it will be the truth. For instance, “I found another woman’s panties in my husband’s car.” Response, “I’m so sorry, that’s unusual. Have you discussed with him why a strange woman’s panties would be in his car? Also, have you considered getting STI testing done?” Or, “My wife says she wants a divorce and is pregnant by another man.” “Have you discussed couple’s counseling. [She refused] Since she has refused you have to accept that she wants a divorce. You can fight it, which will be expensive, or you can sign the papers and in 30 days you can begin the healing process.”

I can’t stand passive-aggressive people. If I’m upset about something, I’m going to tell you what I am upset about in detail. I can’t stand people who talk about you behind your back. If you have something to say, say it to my face or write me a note/text/blog mention, let’s talk about it and be done with it. For goodness sake, don’t draw my children into a passive-aggressive conversation about me or anyone else. I can’t think of much that is more inappropriate than trying to turn a child/ren against their stepparent. Oh, I think I got off track again.

If I ever say to you, “don’t worry about it, I’ll take care of it.” That means, “don’t worry about it, I’ll take care of it.” It doesn’t mean, “really, I wish you would take care of it.” If I say to you, “I really have hours of homework to do” that means, “when I get upstairs I’ll spend the next 4 -5 hours of homework to do.”

So, here’s the honest to God truth, I am sick and tired of other people interpreting badly what I mean by what I say. The words that are coming out of my mouth are the truth, and what I am saying is what I mean. If for some reason, I use a word that you are unfamiliar please ask and I will be happy to define it to prevent further confusion.

One more clue, if I haven’t said anything at all, I generally don’t care OR nobody bothered to tell me.